Sure! Anyone who gets to care for your children is lucky. Still, just because it is a bad economy does not mean that your nanny does not deserve thanks. In my experience, too many parents have a backwards notion of gratitude when it comes to nannies. They feel like the nanny should be grateful to them, instead of the other way around.

I once had a client who had a Live-Out nanny who changed to Live-In for the summer. The family had a house in the Hamptons, and once the two older children were out of school, they packed up the entire household and moved to the beach. The nanny, however, felt angry and resentful because even though her workload had tripled (she was now in charge of watching three children all day long instead of a single toddler, and her hours extended well into the night) the family flatly refused to pay her additional money.

When I explained the nanny’s position to the mom, she looked at me like I had two heads. “Tammy,” she responded, “She’s getting a summer at the beach! Her room is enormous, the house has gorgeous views of the ocean, she’s at the beach all day with the kids, and she gets fresh produce from the garden at every meal!”

“Allison,” I fired back, “She’s the nanny! She’s not vacationing in the Hamptons for the summer, this isn’t fun for her, it’s her job!”

Almost every set of parents I meet thinks that they are the most reasonable employers and that their kids are the most charming kids, even if evidence suggests otherwise. Many parents also feel that any nanny who works for them should thank their lucky stars to be getting a share of their hard-earned cash each week. his attitude is arrogant and misguided. While it is true that there are a lot of available nannies, good nannies are always in high demand and will have their choice of who they work for. Yes, you can always find another one, but she may not be the right one. This is why if you have a good nanny treat her extremely well and do whatever you can to keep her.

If you do nothing else, always remember that YOU are the LUCKY ones; lucky to have your nanny in your life.