How to Find a Nanny

As the founder of my own nanny agency in Manhattan and a working mother of three, I am intimately familiar with the issues surrounding nannies and childcare because I have experienced them first-hand. While my company offers support and advice for parents on all aspects of raising children, my friends call me the “Nanny Whisperer” because I specialize in what I call Nanny-Family Matching—that is, the art (and science!) of finding amazing nannies and matching them with their perfect family. As a working parent, I know just how crucial it is to have someone you trust who can love and nurture your child while you are gone, and as a mom, I understand that it’s not always easy to share the responsibilities of “mothering” with someone else. But I also know from my own experience that a good nanny is one of the greatest gifts that you can ever give to your child. When a nanny situation truly works, it not only makes for a happier child, but also happier parents and stronger marriages. You owe it to yourself and your entire family to set the bar high—and that’s what this series of blog posts is about.

These days, hiring a nanny to fill your shoes when you are not there has become every bit as essential as potty-training and teaching the ABCs. Whether you are East Coast or West Coast, urban or suburban, chances are that the majority of the parents that you know rely on some form of regular childcare. There are more families with two working parents today than ever before, and even Moms and Dads who chose to be at home or at home part-time often require an extra set of hands to keep up with the pace and demands of modern parenthood. In fact, statistics show that 50% of all U.S. children are in some type of formal childcare arrangement by the time they are nine months old.

Why Typing “Best Nanny Agency in NYC” or “Nanny Agencies NYC” into Google Won’t Cut it

While there are hundreds of resources available to tell you how to puree your own organic baby food or sleep train your toddler, there are almost none that teach moms and dads how to find a nanny, or how to work with your nanny effectively.  However, there are countless sites on the internet purporting to offer lists of “the best nanny agencies.”  Sadly however, not all of these are reputable institutions and the ultimate responsibility to vet them and the nannies falls with the parents.  This is exactly why I started my business and wrote my book – to help parents through this journey.

Many of my clients come to me as first-time parents because they are completely daunted by the nanny-search process—how to find a nanny, what to expect, and how much to pay a nanny—but I also get clients who, despite the best of intentions, have been through five nannies in five years and have no idea what they’re doing wrong.  Most parents rely on advice from friends when conducting their search, but without a proven system or strategy to guide them, they end up making mistakes that set the stage for future problems: they prioritize the wrong qualifications, ask the wrong questions, and fail to zero in on what they, as a family, truly need. It doesn’t help that the nanny world is like the Wild West, completely unregulated and often under-the-table; there are no rules, there is no standardized training or hiring protocol, and there is no board or government agency to provide professional oversight. Anyone can advertise themselves as a nanny, and yet I have found that many parents do more due diligence when buying a car than they do when hiring their child’s caregiver.   This requirement to perform your own extensive due diligence is precisely why typing “nanny agency nyc” will only cause you to spin your wheels.

Unfortunately, the stakes are higher than parents realize. Science tells us that 90% of the human brain develops by age three, so any person who cares for your child during these formative years—be it a nanny, a babysitter, or a daycare worker—will without question shape your child’s personality. Young children, especially infants and toddlers, learn from their caregivers every minute of every day, which means that everything about your nanny—her demeanor, her physicality, and whether or not she will actively teach and engage your child—will have a direct impact on his or her social, emotional, and intellectual development. If the chemistry between the nanny and child isn’t right, if the nanny is bored or checked out, if there is high-nanny turnover, or if the nanny-parent relationship is strained, there can be real and lasting consequences for the child. Especially during the early years, the difference between an exceptional caregiver and a mediocre one can be enormous.

That’s why I wrote my book and have started to publish more blog posts on the topic. After years of working with families and their nannies, I have created what I call the “Gold Standard” Process so that parents everywhere can finally have a sure-fire prescription for finding their perfect nanny and making a lasting match that will help their child thrive. No matter who you are, where you live, or what kind of nanny you’re looking for, this book gives you everything you need to achieve the Gold Standard of childcare: a loving, energetic, totally devoted caregiver who is ideally matched—both personally and professionally—to meet your unique needs and those of your child. My hiring process will allow you to take control, avoid mistakes, and hire the right person.  And if you already employ a nanny and it isn’t perfect, the strategies in my book—based on my background in psychotherapy as well as my experience doing Nanny-Family mediation—can help you bring out the best in your child’s caregiver and achieve a whole new level success.

In the coming posts, I’ll discuss:

  • Is a nanny right for you? What is the difference between a live-in nanny, a live-out nanny, and daycare, and I go into depth on the different types of nannies for different situations
  • What should you expect from your nanny?
  • Common myths that parents have about nannies
  • The Gold Standard Hiring Process for finding and selecting your ideal nanny
  • And much, much more…

I hope that you find this content helpful, informative, and educational as you embark on your journey!

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